• In the study, the results of which are published in the Canadian Journal of Psychiatry, Canadian researchers have found out that while many people fall asleep after sex, there are some that sleep during sex.
• According to a report, the researchers made an even more astonishing discovery when they found that not all the partners of people with the disorder were distressed or irritated by the idea of having sex with an unconscious person. In fact some almost prefer it.

Case Study

• The researchers’ study consisted of 11 case studies, mostly male
• Two girlfriends of a 43-year-old man “independently confirmed that he frequently engages in sexual behaviour while asleep
• One describes him as a ‘different person’ during these activities -apparently he is a more amorous and gentle lover and more orientated towards satisfying his partner
• Not all sexomniacs however are sensitive:
  • Another 37-year-old man is “more aggressive and more amorous” while he’s sleeping, says his wife
  • “He indulges in behaviours while asleep that he does not undertake when awake…there is no stopping him
  • ” But she admits, when he tried to throttle her, she had to slap him.
    (ANI)

What is a problem?

• It was abnormal to work at night but with increased industrialization we have seen 24 hour operation in our places of work
• People are more busy than ever with deadlines to beat, targets to hit and great expectations from the society
• There is never enough time to do things and that is why sleep is always compromised
• It is an achievement to sleep after doing everything else you had planned to but how healthy is missing on your sleep?
• A sleep-deprived person is less effective at work, relationships, and also in sex
• This might lead to a sleep disorder known as sexsomnia
• It is a condition where people have sex when they are sleeping
• Sleep sex can be a real pain to a partner. Who wants somebody who sleeps on the job? Not me and not any other person.

More Study

• A study was carried out at the university of Minnesota regarding inappropriate sleep sexual behavior
• The victim might make surprise sexual advances towards a person they are sharing a bed with even though he/she is not a sexual partner. It can be quiet embarrassing especially if these are respected persons
• Sexsomnia are known to be very aggressive in sex even though they are usually in a state between deep sleep and consciousness
• They remain in a sleep twilight zone all through the sex process
• In some cases the victims even snore and misbehave in other unflattering ways
• Some partners are understanding enough and can bear with the post-coital state while others dislike people who sleep on the job.

Sleep and sex experts refer to the case as a result of a certain sexual disorder. The victims are aroused even in their deep sleep. Though partially conscious, they perform well sexually but their judgement on what to do is impaired and they are capable of interacting normally with their sexual partner. This can result into mild rape cases as the sexsomiacs overpower their partners and force them into the act of sex. It more or less appears like a dream and they might talk about their partners loudly. It is unfortunate if they are they cheat on their partners because they might give themselves away by murmuring another person’s name. Sexsomnia can cause relationship problems in such a case. It might be a mere obsession with another person but the spouse might not understand.

Sexsomnia is a sleep disorder which can be treated with time. It does not mean that sexsomniacs are perverted. They are people who would not wish to do so in their consciousness. Sleep centers are good at identifying your specific problem and assisting you to deal with it. It is interesting that some people find the whole idea of sleep sex very exciting. They love the occasional sleep-inspired romance. Night time sexual activities might affect your relationships but it all depends on who you are dealing with. People are different and they react differently to different circumstances. (By Francis Githinji)

• The researchers looked at 956 men and women 59 to 97 years old participating in 1990 in the Rotterdam Study, a long-term community-based study analogous to the Framingham Study of heart health held in Massachusetts in 1948 
• For 6 nights in a row, study participants kept a sleep diary, estimating how long they’d slept and how long it took them to fall asleep on the previous night
• At the same time, they wore a device called an actigraph on their wrists to measure when they were resting peacefully and when they were tossing, turning and otherwise moving around
• Men said they averaged 7 hours of sleep a night, while women thought they got about 6 hours and 45 minutes of sleep every night
• Men said it took them 20 minutes to fall asleep, and women said it took them half an hour
• According to the actigraphs, the men were actually sleeping a bit less than 6-and-a-half hours, while the women were logging about 15 minutes more
• Men also woke up more often frequently during the night. The men drank twice as much alcohol as the women, which accounted for some of their worse sleep quality, but not all of it, the researchers found.

Sleep Can Affect Your Sex Life Quality

• The National Sleep Foundation study reports that in 2005 nearly 25% of couples in the USadmit to being so sleepy that they have lost interest in lovemaking
• People who snore also appear to have inferior sex lives, as one-third of people say that snoring causes a problem in their relationship
• Sleep and sex is not a topic on which a lot of research has been done, according to sleep medicine experts
• Separate beds, bedrooms, or sleeping on the couch may not be the answer either, as that could affect the psychological bond between the two of you
• Just how are sleep and sex related? Well, a low sex drive is the most common sexual complaint made by women–up to 30% to 40% of women.

Here are some facts relating sleep to a person’s sex life:

• Lack of sleep causes moodiness, depression, and anxiety
• These are emotions that obviously affect your drive for sex
• Lack of sleep slows the basic thought processes
• If you’re not thinking straight, you may say or do something that can ruin the moment
• Lack of sleep slows reaction time
• Increased stress translates into less time for both sleep and sex
• Lack of sleep from sleep disorders has been proven to cause certain levels of sexual dysfunction.

Medical Conditions That Will Affect Sleep & Sex

• The medical condition most commonly associated with problems with sleep and sex is sleep apnea, in which the airway is closed when someone is snoring
• People with sleep apnea may wake up as many as 400 times a night in order to breathe again, and this can cause severe daytime sleepiness, and irritability
• Men with sleep apnea tend to have lower levels of testosterone, which can lower libido.
• Other medical conditions that affect sleep and sex include diabetes, lung conditions, depression and heart disease. In addition, some medications that treat these conditions don’t help one’s sex life
• Medications for high blood pressure may cause erectile dysfunction in men by inhibiting blood flow to the penis
• Others may have psychiatric or medical problems that interfere with their ability to sleep well and perform well sexually
• Symptoms of depression and anxiety, for example, can include both insomnia and a diminished sex drive
• Many antidepressants, which can sometimes cause erectile dysfunction and/or a loss of libido, further complicate matters.

Tips For Couples

• Hire a babysitter — maybe even one that takes the kids out, while men and their partners stay in for a romantic dinner
• Go on a walk after dinner. This calms the kids, provides family time, gives everyone exercise which makes us tired enough for sleep but overall more healthy and active for sex
• Give each other a massage
• Offer to draw each other a warm bath
• Hire someone to clean the house–a professional service or local college student
• Take the TV out of the bedroom. Many women are watching TV before bed, which can make for restless sleep and less sex
• To help relax women and to set the mood, men can work with their partners to decide on a decent and early enough bed routine for the kids, give their wife or girlfriend space to get any work needed done before bed, and then still have 30-60 minutes of relaxation time before sleep.

Watch Video: Sex vs Better Sleep

According to a new Better Sleep Council Canada survey, men and women are divided when it comes to how they’ll use the extra hour as the clocks turn back on October 31st. Given the choice between sleep and sex, more men would choose sex and more women would choose sleep. The survey uncovered other tensions in the bedroom, with three quarters (73 per cent) saying poor sleep affects their relationship. A couples counsellor offers tips to help couples make the most of their time in bed, whether it’s for sleep or sex. Distributed by Tubemogul.

Being as a standard occurrence in many parts of the world outside of North America, Europe and Australia, in many places with predominant of children have shared a bed with their parents especially in their childhood. 2006 study of children age 3–10 in India reported 93% of children co-sleeping with their parents.

History of Co-Sleeping

• Co-sleeping was widely popular around the wolrd until approximately 19th century, whent the child could have his or her own bedroom and the crib
• Simple explanation of this phenomenon is that co-sleeping simply allows to keep the child warm at night
• Co-sleeping has become more and more prevailant in North America by propotion of attachment parenting
• A 2006 study of families in Kentucky, USA reported 15% of infants and toddlers from 2 weeks to 2 years are co-sleeping.

Proponets of Co-Sleeping say:

• Co-sleeping saves babies’ lives 
• Cosleepingpromotes bonding, lets the parents get more sleep, facilitates breastfeeding
• Co-sleeping protects against sudden infant death syndrome (SIDS) 
• Older babies can breastfeed during the night without waking their mother

 Opponents of Co-Sleeping say:

• Co-sleeping is stressful for the child
• Parent may promote an unhealthy dependence of the child on the parent(s)
• This practice may interfere with the parents’ own relationship, by reducing both communication and sexual intercourse at bedtime
• Zigmund Freud’s psycho-analysis of mental syndromes, which is based on the child’s memory recall of the parents presence in the same bed, supports the opppnebts’ view on co-sleeping inadequacy
• Modern-day bedding is not safe for co-sleeping.

What sleep and bed are having in common?

• Generally speaking, a bed is a piece of furniture or location primarily used or intended for sleeping upon
• However, it is also commonly used for sexual activities, relaxing, sitting, watching TV, and reading
• Beds come in a wide array of shapes and sizes: single, double, queen, king-size, water-bed, round-bed, rotating bed, etc.
• Early beds were little more than piles of straw or some other natural materials 
• An important change was raising them off the ground, to avoid drafts, dirt, and pests just to support healthy sleep
• To make beds more comfortable the top layer is frequently a mattress (North America style)
• Originally, mattresses were just bags of straw filled with feather or hay
• In the modern day, beds and mattresses have totally different design, suitable for many multiple purposes, including actual sleep and sexual activities
• If parents are so inclined for co-sleeping, the modern king-size mattresses are quire comfortable for this purpose, however the author of this writing does not support this idea.

Watch Video:  Co-Sleeping

It is a common belief among men that a man should be in affection with a woman in order to sleep with her. Men also think that sex is different from love, which is true, of course. A man may confess to a woman that he is in sexual relationship with one or more women, but not with a woman he is in love. For him any contact with his woman needs to be very special and well planned ahead.

How men and women think about sleeping together?

Men

• The first indication of a man being ready for engaging into sexual relationship with a woman is his libido or just an erection of his manhood just for the purpose of performing sexual intercourse.
• For a woman to make a decision to sleep with a man she needs a reason. It has to be enough reason just to make her undress in front of a man. This reason is what a man must clearly understand in order to know why a woman would sleep with you.
• Most men fear that if they try any direct approach to a woman requesting sexual relationship  without any emotional attachment, then this woman will let him down and reject him outright.
• It is only partly correct! You have to understand women’s psychology to engage them into sleeping with you if it is just your immediate goal.

You don’t need to be Casanova just for the sake of becoming better husband even this opinion is quite prevalent.

Women

For a woman to make a decision to sleep with she may require additional components before sleeping with you such as:

• To feel specific connection between him and her, ether spiritual or intellectual.
• She doesn’t need to be your only girlfriend to sleep with you. If you managed to find that inside connection with a woman, that is all you need to do. Just find any trigger or any “button” to make that connection.
• A woman requires a very good reason to sleep with you willingly, with nothing in return except sharing spiritual, intellectual, or sexual pleasure.
• A woman might tell you that she is not planning to have sex with you. However, after a while she might.
• Try to convince her that she is a very good and decent woman. If she thinks that you are treating her as a low quality person and you have no manners, stay calm, apologize with a teasing expression on you face, but do not insist on getting laid.  Guess what: she will be sleeping with you in no time.
• Woman needs to trust you and be able to communicate to your emotions. You need to spend some time to gain her trust and respect while making that communication. Use your finger touch to amplify your efforts. You might need to learn how to do that if you don’t have enough knowledge. Hand touch plays a great role in sexual arousal!
• Remember: If a woman feels any connection between you and her, a drift of your soul towards her, even if you are old and married, she will sleep with you and she will never have any regret.

This series is about finding happiness in the home. How do we, very simply, make the physical layout of the house more harmonious? How do we improve our communication with those we live with? What food would be most beneficial to have in our fridge? And how can we generally make more positive choices in our home life? Most of us spend at least a third of our lives in the bedroom. It’s where we withdraw from the world and rejuvenate. If we experience a sense of harmony in there, we have a much better chance of coming out in to the world in a balanced way, which will, in turn, affect how we go about our day, how much energy we have and how we communicate with others.

5  Tips To Better Sex And Sleep

Watch Video:  Researchers say if your sex drive is dwindling try getting more sleep!  

“A man’s body chemistry changes after orgasm. The biochemical prolactin is released, physically altering his body and making him very tired,” says Dr. David McKenzie, a sex therapist in Vancouver, Canada. 

Further, exertion during sex and after climax depletes the muscles of energy-producing glycogen, which leads to sleepiness. Since men have more muscle mass than women, they’re generally sleepier after sex.

Men’s libido goes up and down 

Think PMS is only for women? Think again. Your monthly peaks and valleys are triggered by changes in testosterone that affect your mood, libido, energy level, beard growth and sperm count.

According to research by naturopathic physician Dr. Marcus Laux, men have more energy, a greater sense of well being, lower body weight and less need for sleep during the peak of their cycle. The valleys bring apathy, indifference and the tendency to magnify small problems into big ones.

“If you keep track of your personal cycles, whether it’s shifts in energy levels, mood or sex drive, you can anticipate changes,” says Laux. “Then, you can take advantage of the times you’re at your prime and better cope when you’re not feeling your best.” 

 Disrupted sleep decreases erections 

If you’re struggling with obstructive sleep apnea (OSA), you’re at risk for sexual dysfunction. OSA is a sleep disorder that affects 18 million Americans—many of whom go undiagnosed—and causes sufferers to stop breathing dozens of times per hour.

OSA disrupts rapid-eye-movement (REM) sleep, which is when men routinely experience erections. Decreased REM sleep means fewer REM erections, which affects sexual health. “It’s possible that men need to experience REM erections in order to maintain optimal sexual functioning,” says Dr. Charles Atwood, associate director of the University of Pittsburgh Medical Center’s Sleep Medicine Center. 

“If you have erectile dysfunction, you should get tested for OSA,” he advises. “Men who are diagnosed and treated for OSA often see an improvement in sexual functioning.”  

Watch Video:

According to a new Better Sleep Council Canada survey, men and women are divided when it comes to how they’ll use the extra hour as the clocks turn back on November 2nd. Given the choice between sleep and sex, more men would choose sex and more women would choose sleep. The survey uncovered other tensions in the bedroom, with three quarters (73 per cent) saying poor sleep affects their relationship.  A couples counsellor offers tips to help couples make the most of their time in bed, whether it’s for sleep or sex. Distributed by Tubemogul.  

•  190,374 people are having sex right now
•  212,130 are kissing
•  1 poor soul is reading THIS JOKE, and 
•  You hang in there sunshine!!!!

1.   Wear your glasses. Make sure your partner is actually in the bed.

2.   Set timer for 3 minutes, in case you doze off in the middle.

3.   Set the mood with lighting (Turn them ALL OFF!)

6.   Keep denture adhesive close by so your teeth don’t end up under the bed.

7.   Have Tylenol ready in case you actually complete the act.

8.   Make all the noise you want… The neighbors are deaf too.

9.   If it works, call everyone you know with the good news.

10. Don’t even think about trying it twice.

4.   Make sure you put 911 on your speed dial before you begin.

5.   Write partner’s name on your hand in case you can’t remember.

When you start playing this game  you won’t be able to fall asleep! Try it and you will see for yourself!

All you need to do is to click on the red square and move it around by holding the  left button of the mouse.

Make sure you do not touch neither blue rectangulars nor the black adges. If you can sustain that way for more that 18 seconds, you are the genius!

Press click on the “Red Square“ to start the game 

Good luck to you! Have fun!

Please send the link to this game to your friends

Try to solve this Four Squares puzzle and you will fall asleep! Guaranteed! 

The following relatively complicated puzzle can be used for those who can’t fall asleep and who need some intellectual “food” before falling asleep. The name of this puzzle is Four Squares. If you are not fast enough to solve all four questions, please do not get upset: 99% of adult population can’t do it either. So click on  Four Squares and have fun!

AntiSleep Puzzle

The challenge is to fit the five pieces into the square:

• The pieces can touch, but they may not overlap.
• Use the mouse and click and drag to move the pieces.
• To rotate a piece, press the SHIFT button, and then click the mouse button.
• When all the pieces are fitted into their correct place, a ‘congratulations’ message will pop up.
• We are sometimes asked if it is possible, or necessary, to flip some of the pieces over. The answer is no, the pieces do not need to be flipped over.

Last update Dec 24, 2009